Have you ever found yourself in a situation that was beyond your control but yet you couldn’t help going on and on about it? Fussin’ and fightin’ for it to change and no matter what you did, it simply went on as though you didn’t matter? Yep. It’s like yelling at the rain to stop.
Not. Going. To. Happen.
I’ve had several of these moments throughout my life; and it can be mighty difficult to realize what you cannot change. That whomever or whatever is just going to be. It doesn’t matter how much I “yell” about it, the situation is not going to change because I want it to.
I am learning that yelling at the rain to stop won’t make it so.
And this is different from thinking you don’t have choices, as we talked about in life lesson #428. This here is about your inability to control (whatever) and yet you believe there is a way to gain control and fix (whatever). So you yell and yell and yell and…
…you wear yourself out yelling at the rain – because it simply will not stop just because you want it to.
The next time you find yourself yelling at the rain to stop – STOP! Take a moment to consider what (or who) it is you are trying to change. If the situation is truly beyond your control, then you may wish to take another route in relieving yourself of the worry associated with this (what- or whom-ever).
And remember this:
You cannot control people, places, or things – only your reaction to them.
The next time you find yourself yelling at the rain to stop – STOP! Take a breathe, get out of the rain, or buy an umbrella. But understand that yelling at the rain to stop won’t make it so. However, your reaction to the rain – what you do to deal with it – is all up to you.
And once you understand what you can control vs. what you cannot – you may just find that living with a little rain every now and then really isn’t so bad after all.
Original photo via Dollar Photo Club • Awesomely edited @ PicMonkey: fearless photo embetterment!
Have you had an ah-HA moment recently and embraced the rain, rather than yelled at it? How was the outcome for you – mind, body, and spirit?